How much are you worth to yourself? Self-worth often determines our ability to function efficiently and exist at peace with ourselves. Yet, it’s one of the most difficult things to cultivate and sustain within. So what’s the secret to keeping it intact? How do we foster, grow and protect this invaluable asset?
SARAYU began as my alter ego; the person I continuously strive to be. She was born out of a need for seeing the positives in the negatives, and manifesting strength where only weakness seemed to be. I didn’t know it at the time, but this was my way of building my identity, and being proud of the person I was mindfully choosing to grow into. This was the way in which I defined my self-worth.
Over time though, I realized self-worth requires being your best you, and accepting the dark sides and working with them too. It was this realization that led to developing a healthier relationship with myself. I believe it’s with this in mind, you can begin your journey of self-acceptance, self-love and self-worth. It’s such an important contributor to our value of life, and even our ability to succeed throughout. I’m not kidding.
You see, the more you own yourself, the more you’re able to tap into your unique energy reserves. With more energy and confidence, you’ve got a higher chance of creating the reality you want for yourself.
While it’s definitely influenced by those around you, be it friends or family, ultimately you have to know if you’re willing to accept yourself regardless of social consequence. It’s inherently difficult because we are social creatures, but the payoff is definitely worth it.
Ask yourself what you derive your worth from.
Example: One of the things I base my worth on is my ability to be compassionate toward another.
Is it internal or external?
Example: This is an internal factor.
If it is external, how do I feel about that?
Example: An external factor I based my self-worth on was being accepted by individuals who genuinely could not accept me.
This interfered with my ability to love myself. I wondered why I was not worth their compassion, forgiveness, time, energy, love.
The thing is, sometimes there are so many factors involved with external situations, it’s not exactly about you. It was only when I realized this, I recognized how little control I have basing my self-worth over their ability to accept me. Over time, I’m learning to become less dependent on this validation I once looked for.
So, take inventory on what aspects of your life hold your self-worth. Ask yourself the hard questions and get to work. You are, after all, your greatest investment.